Couples Say The Darndest Things

Couple’s counseling is very different than individual therapy—particularly regarding volatility and defensiveness.  The emotions (and expletives) can fly!  Couple’s sessions can get escalated.  However, they are also full of clever wit, unexpected humor, and tender expressions of love and understanding.

Couples say the darndest things–not just kids.  Here are a few of my favorite expressions uttered in couples therapy over the past almost decade of working with and studying couples in therapy: Continue reading “Couples Say The Darndest Things”

#1 Advice From a Marriage Counselor

Be Yourself.  Let me be me—for that is all that I can be. 

Trust, I will be there when you need me.  I will hold to the same.

Let me be who I am; as I will, for you.

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Is This Your Fast Food in the Closet?

The arguments couple’s have are fascinating—sometimes flat-out funny!  However, there’s usually more to the story.  With permission to share it, this is one of my favorites from a couple in the Salt Lake City, Utah area: Continue reading “Is This Your Fast Food in the Closet?”

How Thin Mints Almost Ruined a Marriage

While attending school at BYU, one of my best friends and his wife were living in a married-student housing complex.  It was a great starting spot for their marriage.  However, there was just one… slight… problem.  The walls were paper-thin.  They were privy to more information than they signed up for! Continue reading “How Thin Mints Almost Ruined a Marriage”

A Doctor’s Experience With Mindful Relaxation

I am fascinated by the continuous surge of research being done regarding the benefits of mindfulness and relaxation.  This seems to stem from efforts to curtail the dangerously ill effects that stress can have on individuals, relationships, and society as a whole.  It is very evident that we are stressed out! Continue reading “A Doctor’s Experience With Mindful Relaxation”