Have you experienced that emotional wash of flu-like discomfort throughout your body, leading you to believe you are dirty, or unclean? Do you have painful thoughts of regret in the middle of the night?
What are these awful emotions? Simply, they are a feeling of unworthiness. Brené Brown, shame researcher and storyteller, has helped bring to light these intensely dark emotions (see list and links below). Through meta-analysis, she found the four ickiest emotions—my word, not hers—are: Embarrassment, Humiliation, Guilt, and Shame. Even though these emotions can feel similar, knowing the differences between them makes all the difference. Continue reading “Do You Feel Unworthy?”
Couple’s counseling is very different than individual therapy—particularly regarding volatility and defensiveness. The emotions (and expletives) can fly! Couple’s sessions can get escalated. However, they are also full of clever wit, unexpected humor, and tender expressions of love and understanding.
Couples say the darndest things–not just kids. Here are a few of my favorite expressions uttered in couples therapy over the past almost decade of working with and studying couples in therapy: Continue reading “Couples Say The Darndest Things”
There’s an old fable, similar to the concept that C.S. Lewis presents in The Screwtape Letters, of a devil and his young apprentice. They are monitoring a man whom they are in charge of tempting. They observe him finding peace beneath a tree. The apprentice anxiously pleads with the master devil stop this man from finding happiness. The master, with quiet confidence replies: Continue reading “The Problem With Beliefs”
When I was about eight years old, I remember a particularly annoying night when my older sisters were picking on me… again… (a shocker I know). I had had enough! I don’t recall the details of the situation, but I got very angry and felt powerless to do anything about it. So, I decided to vent to my journal, writing less Continue reading “A Helpful Way to Vent”
“Why do we fall, Mr. Wayne? So we can learn to pick ourselves up.” Continue reading “Rising Strong: Brené Brown”